signs of a healthy emotional relationship between parent and child
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the child will:
-seek approval and praise
-turn to parents and caregivers for comfort and help
-tells caregivers about significant events...share joy or sorrow
-accepts limits and discipline without much resistance
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self concept
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how a child sees themselves......can be positive or negative
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sleep deprived
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lack of appropriate sleep that can affect a child's temperament and ability to do simple tasks during the day
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three year olds
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-generally happier than two year olds
-more cooperative
-considerate
-more physically capable....less frustrated
-more willing to take direction from others
-modify behavior for praise and affection
-fewer temper tantrums
-like to talk...imaginary friends
-respond when talked to
-can be reasoned with and controlled by words
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individual differences
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-each child is unique and will develop in a special way
-strong individual differences between ages 1-4
-experiences shape individual differences
-individual differences result from the child's temperament...the way the child naturally responds to other people and events
-an intense child will become more frustrated than an adaptable child
-perceptive child...shows more empathy
-understanding temperament helps when teaching a child how to control their emotions, dealing with negativism, tantrums, sibling rivalry and guiding a child to desirable behavior
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how to manage misbehavior
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-parents worry misbehavior will damage the child's self-concept
-positive self-concept is based on achievements
-praising children for doing something good helps self-esteem
-ways to discourage negative behavior:
-explore feelings
*talk about characters in books and movies...ways to handle the problems they came across
-acknowledge feelings
*explain why bad behaviors...hitting, kicking, screaming...are not acceptable and give alternative ways to behave
-give choices
*offer choices that empower children...pick out clothes or shoes, what book they want to read
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how self-concept is formed
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-through their response to the actions, attitudes, and comments of others
-parents have a strong influence on a child's self-concept
-young children believe that what others say about them and the opinions of others influence how they behave
-use the positives...if a child always hears the negatives they will begin to believe it...tone of voice and body language count
-words and actions have a strong influence on children until they are old enough to judge for themselves...self-concept may have already been established :(
-mastery of skills helps form self-concept
-exploration is important
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anger
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child's way of reacting to frustration
-by age three they are less violent and explosive
-less likely to hit or kick
-physical attacks give way to name calling, pouting, or scolding
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specific emotions
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-how children express emotions change as they grow
-express openly until age of two or three
-after three they learn socially acceptable ways to express emotions
-emotions are: anger, fear, jealousy, love, affection, and empathy
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REM sleep
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a cycle of sleep, known as rapid eye movement, or light sleep....dreams occur during this cycle
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temper tantrums
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children release anger or frustration by screaming, crying, kicking, pounding, and sometimes holding their breath....starts around 18 months, can last until age 3 or 4
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two year olds
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-improved speech and motor skills....relieves frustration
-they understand more
-they can wait longer for needs to be met
-express love and affection freely
-seeks approval and praise
-some emotional outbursts
-easier to reason with
-friendlier and less self centered
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two or three year old and anger
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-tantrum is directed at the object or person they are mad at
-some toddlers become aggressive and hit....they have not learned how to control their feelings
-a child can rest and the anger can be discussed after they are calm
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signs of a healthy emotional relationship between siblings
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-some fighting will occur...that's normal
-mostly loving and caring toward one another
-helpful toward siblings
-if a child is constantly bitter toward a sibling, despite parents efforts to make it better, the child may need counseling
-if dealt with early...can make a huge difference throughout life
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negativism and the desire for independence
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"no" is a way of the child deciding for themselves
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negativism and frustration
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toddlers want to do more than their bodies are able to accomplish...this results in a frustrated "no"
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sleep, emotions, and behavior
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-most sleep problems in children are normal
-most kids experience them
-parents should try to understand what causes them
-fears can cause sleep problems
-use a bedtime routine to help eliminate fears
-separation anxiety can cause nightmares also
-ask to talk about the nightmare to help overcome the fear
-it may be tough for a child to fall back asleep after a nightmare
-rocking or a lullaby may help...other routine thing
-sleep problems may be caused by anything...tight pjs, ear infection, sickness
-call doctor if necessary
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general emotional patterns
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children ages 1-3 go through negative and positive emotions...they have a tendency to alternate with one another
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fear
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-different fears at different ages
-some fears are useful...help keep the child out of dangerous situations
-parents sometimes communicate their fears to children...dogs
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cut down on sibling rivalry
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-love and appreciate each child for who they are
-have one-on-one time with each child
-don't compare the children
-be sure children can take turns choosing family activities
-no tattling to get the other in trouble
-talk about jealousy and why not to be jealous
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two and one-half year olds
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-enters another difficult stage
-learning new things....frustration
-desires and abilities to comprehend tasks exceed their physical ability to preform....frustration
-can't always be understood...frustration
-immaturity and a need for independence clash
-don't want to conform, they want to be independent
-sensitive about being bossed, shown, helped, or directed
-they are stubborn, demanding, and domineering
-moods change rapidly
-need consistency....routines
-feeling of independence and dependency
-require love and patience
-need flexible limits rather than hard and fast rules
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ways to ensure a child gets adequate sleep
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-determine a child's best bedtime
*if staying up beyond normal bedtime, they will get a "second wind" and have a hard time falling asleep
-limit toys in the bed
*it's bedtime, not playtime
-establish a bedtime routine
*pattern, pattern, pattern!
-keep bedtime pleasant
*talk, cuddle, read stories
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phobias
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-abnormal fears...more likely to develop in children who are shy or withdrawn
-talk to a pediatrician
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jealousy
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-usually happens at 18 months to age 2
-reaches its peak at age 3
-becomes less intense as a child makes new friends and loosens their ties to home and parents
-new babies in the family can cause an older sibling to become jealous...the attention is now on the baby
-some toddlers react to a new baby by doing inappropriate things to get attention
-fear of losing their parents love is what caused this behavior
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18 month old and anger
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their tantrum is not directed at anyone or anything, it just happens
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sibling rivalry
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competition between brother or sisters for parents' affection and attention
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NREM sleep
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a cycle of sleep, known as non-rapid eye movement, or deep sleep
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ways to help with separation anxiety
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-offer support and understanding
-encourage child to talk about their fears and listen to them
-can try to accept the fear and avoid confrontation with it
-read books together...experience of fear
-make unfamiliar situations more secure
-teach how to control a frightening situation
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negativism
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doing the opposite of what others want
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needs vs. wants
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when an infant, needs and desires are met on demand....around age 18 months, caregivers teach the child that some desires will not be met immediately
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signs of sleep deprivation
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-if a child doesn't get enough sleep and has to be woke up in the morning, they have a tendency to be tired all day...trouble thinking, risk of hurting themselves while playing, cranky and hard to handle
-sleep deprivation is more apparent when a child starts school...getting up on a regular schedule can be hard if they don't go to bed on time
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common causes of anger
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sick, tired, uncomfortable, hungry, frustrated, didn't get their way, anxious, insecure, overly critical parent, inconsistent parent, hasn't learned self-control yet
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negativism and the child's realization of being a separate person
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child welcomes power and independence, but still wants to be close to their caregiver
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three and one-half year olds
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-suddenly becomes very insecure
-parents may feel the child is going backwards in emotional development
-fears are common
-emotional tension and insecurities show up in physical ways too....thumb sucking, nail biting, stumbling or stuttering
-try to control their environment....issue demands
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empathy
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-the ability to understand how another person feels...happens between 12 and 18 months old
-they begin to understand that their actions can hurt others...this is when empathy begins to develop
-if a child sees another child upset, they will try to comfort them...empathy
-caregivers help teach empathy...child apologizes...child takes a step to correct what they did wrong
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separation anxiety
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-fear of being away from parents, familiar caregivers, or their normal environment...can upset parents or caregivers
-don't want the child to cry when they leave...parents feel guilty
-children will grow out of this
-being specific with the child on when the parent will return will help ease them
-can give the child something that reminds them of the parent
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self-concept vs. self-esteem
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-self-concept...what you think you are like as a person
-self-esteem...how highly you value yourself
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evaluating emotional adjustment
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-most important clue to if a child's emotional development is on the right track is the relationship they have with their parent or caregiver between ages 1-4
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positive guidance and encouraging talking
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help a child learn to use words to communicate how they feel....this helps you and the child understand what is wrong
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acceptable ways to handle anger
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-use words...express feelings with words
-speak calmly...even if angry, speak calmly, don't scream
-take deep breaths...Chloe! :)
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self-centered
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a child thinks about their own needs and wants
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love and affection
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-children learn to love between the ages of 1-3
-babies "love" those who satisfy their physical needs
-older children expand affection to include siblings, pets, and people outside of their home
-don't smother the child, love them strongly
-let the child be independent, but make sure they know you are still there
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positive self concept
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-if a child sees themselves as good and capable they will have a positive self-concept
if they see themselves as bad or incapable they will have a negative self-concept
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positive guidance and chioces
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having choices allows the child to control the situation....limit to two to three alternatives
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positive guidance and redirecting the child
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distract the child from the issue....wait until they are calm and try again
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importance of adequate sleep
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-essential for good physical and emotional health
-if a child becomes sleep deprived they can be less alert, inattentive, or even hyperactive during the day
-children need adequate sleep in order to develop and function properly
-1-3 year olds need lots of sleep...12-14 hours
-REM sleep and NREM sleep cycles each night
-newborns have short sleep cycles and can go through an entire REM-NREM cycle in about an hour
-4 month old babies sleep 6-8 hours at a time
-6 months old...10-12 hours at a time
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the word "No"
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this negative word allows the child to feel some control
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young toddlers (18 months)
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often do the opposite of what is requested
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negativism and the child
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a battle between the parent and child....eliminate as many restrictions as possible